You cannot be successful in a relationship if you do not understand yourself. How we perceive our relations is what we believe to be reality. Our beliefs are based on our perceptions and assumptions about ourselves and the world around us. How you understand your partners, their joys and pains depends on your understanding of the ones you experience. Recognize your biases about situations, about people and relationships. Recognize the means you use to collect information about things and the lens which you filter it through. Recognize the processes you employ to solve problems and make decisions. Understanding these things will help you to build framework for a relationship that comprises of your perceptions, assumptions, beliefs and shape what actions you take in your relationship.
- How Much Are You Worth?: Authentic Relationships (pushmovement.wordpress.com)